Growing Up as a Gay Adventist

12 thoughts on “Growing Up as a Gay Adventist”

  1. Jonathan, I don’t know if you’ll see this comment, but many years ago, I spent two hot Florida summers babysitting you and your brother and sister. You guys were such awesome kids, and I loved you dearly. Reading this makes me proud of the young man you’ve become. I know it probably wasn’t easy to publicly share your story, but I am so glad you did. I am praying that you find love and acceptance in the church, and that maybe your story will help others to find love and acceptance, too. May your faith continue to grow; I know God has big plans for your life!


  2. Thank you, Simone & Johnathan for sharing a beautiful story. God is love and turns his back on no one! Everyone is a precious soul in God’s eyes and should be in everyone’s eyes. Wishing you a wonderful life.


  3. He is so funny. I agree as someone who grew up in the Seventh Day Adventist religion 100% each person has their own experience period. Speaking for myself I have seen people leave the church for petty things (as was mentioned in the article about picking and choosing) and how the subject of homosexuality is a touchy one where in general it is looked at as some great sin. I have always believed God is the judge of that “who am I too judge” kind of thing and was taught by by father who that treat ppl as you wish to be treated. I like respect and no major judgement so same to those even if I dont understand something about their lifestyle or choices.
    That is why the ignorance people have when using offensive terms toward homosexuality bothers me. You dont see me at rallys for gay rights but dont be a jerk..
    Anyways loved your article and tell Jon hello for me!


  4. I found this a most interesting blog. I happened upon it as i do t kniw you or Jonathan. Jonathan’s story is not unlike most SDA or any other person who grew up “gay.” As a SDA, I was trying not to have the mindset that he feels is unloving, judgmental, and unaccepting. However, I have many questions.

    It’s easy to dismiss the early upbringing, but I wondered about his home life and the type of relationship he had with his siblings and parents, and how his parents related to each other and him. I wondered about his early life and his associations. I assumed (which may be wrong) his parents were educated, hard-working Christian people who loved their family, and strove to live a certain lifestyle, caught up with their individual lives, not having a meaningful marriage, and may not have really “known” him or his siblings.

    Jonathan sounds like a fun person you’d want to spend an afternoon with… talking, because he sounds well-read, bright, knowledgeable, funny, and kind. …yet, this notion of “living one’s truth,” such a common, 21st century idea with millenials and people who support an alternative lifestyle, does not sit well with me. … and that gays only break one commandment is not truth. What about the first, not having other gods, and the seventh that covers any sexually behavior different from that permitted within the bands of marriage between a man and a woman?… I could go on…

    Yes, we Christians, and specifically God’s remnant people, need more love for each other and others, but we cannot love by negating God’s commands. Families do this. Some people can love only the children they birthed. Not at all Christlike. But we must love the Christian way, and it does not mean I can ignore or not point out that your lifestyle choice is not ok. Please check out:

    Jonathan’s story is not unique. His “lived journey” and everything associated with it is what the enemy convinced Eve in the Garden was ok. She believed his lie, and had to leave her Eden home.



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